What do you say when you don’t know what to
say? What is left to utter when
utterance has become utterly futile?
I am in this season. I hope it is just a season. I feel like I have nothing left to say.
What kind of a pastor ends up here? Well, one who has experienced the outer
limits of what his heart and soul can bear.
I am going to uncover my depths.
I need to. You don’t have to
listen, or care, but I must write it. In
this Lenten season of emptying the cupboards and puking the soul, I must pour
it out. Like the Psalmist I have found
my dregs where deep calls unto deep. Wave
after wave of God’s unrelenting faithful and frustrating pounding have besieged
the beaches of my life. It has knocked
the legs out from beneath me. I am scrambling
in the foam of his gentle fury.
I father a child deeply troubled. My being aches. My intestines twist. Love aches. Mental illness has shattered the portrait of
the ideal family. Love overcomes a
multitude of sins, but can it overcome this fathomless mystery? Can we endure this? Can we survive it? Can my son make it through this valley blanketed
by the shadow of death? Can God
deliver? I know he can. Why does he wait?
Advent was about longing and waiting. We waited and God was revealed. God with us; the joy we cling to and long for. We are not abandoned or alone. We are surrounded by a great cloud of
witnesses who testify to the power of the child who became a man; God
enfleshed, who is now the risen Lord.
Lent is about preparation and
repentance. This journey toward Easter
flirts dangerously with the human tendency to navel-gaze and work to save
oneself. I must know my depths and face
them honestly, but I must equally analyze the tendency toward over-analysis and
in humility make straight the way of the Lord.
This is what I need to hear.
Jesus, God with us, God for us, seeks the honest soul, not the perfect
one. Will I be so bold? Will I be so needy? I know I am.
I Am.
That is who he is. He will be who
he will be. Will he be what I need? Will he be what my son needs? He is.
But, what if we never escape this season?
What if the King simply prorogues and delays? What if he is long in coming? What if I become like Mary and Martha
wondering why he didn’t show up in time?
What if I am left at his feet, belly-aching, berating the divine, and
wondering why he who loves so widely and completely seemingly refuses to love
as I would like?
I am the resurrection and the life. This is his speech in the depths of my
despair and disillusionment. This is who
he truly is despite this place where dirges drag, silence tortures, words fail and
no answers abound. This muddy season in
which my innards are plowed up and rained upon: can this be the season of new
life? I am given to doubt; touching his
overcoming wounds is my only hope. Truly
Paul is correct, if there is no resurrection than we are to be greatly
pitied. Sure, there are times of
glory. There are times when it all comes
together, the sun shines, and all is right with the world. Yet we eventually seem to end up back here in
this valley and it is here where he proves himself time and time and time
again.
So, I sit.
I wait. I discover dust and
ashes. I find I am weak. I find I am not so smart after all and that he
who holds his tongue is wise. My fingers
slip, holding the tongue is not so easy, I am prone to speech. I vomit words. I drool vocabulary. And the Lord is a faithful listener. He does not butt in. He simply weeps with me and I find there is
only one answer: he is the resurrection and the life. That’s all that can be said in this season
where even in my speech I don’t have anything left to say.